I love using the word bitch. It’s probably my most used word in the world (though I don’t love it as much as I love another word, but let’s save it for a different article).
Usually, when I use the word bitch, I’m using it to describe people. “What’s up bitches?” “How are you doing bitch?” “Bitches be crazy.” That kind of a thing. I even came up with a term for my supporters and followers: MadBitches. Okay, it isn’t very original, but I thought it would suffice.
Well, the other day, while checking out the list of my followers (which happens to be growing every day and I appreciate that more than anything!), I realized most of my audience happens to be women. Being a gay guy, I naturally thought it was my sense of being fabulous. Then, I began to wonder, “Do I use the word bitch too often?”
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Yes, this is me having guilt. Why? The word bitch is used and associated with women in most cases. As for me, I use it to refer to everyone. We’re all bitches. I’m pretty much a crazy bitch 24/7, just ask Boyfriend! But we also can be assholes… and dicks… and douche bags. So I feel like I use the word bitch because, for me, it’s an honest term of endearment that describes most people.
Still, although I have my own reason to use the word bitch, I reached out to my fellow followers and asked, “ladies, let’s discuss something… how do you feel when i use the word bitch?” Although I’m truly loved and everyone is dying to read my tweets, only two people responded. Everyone must’ve been busy…
A good friend of mine said: “I try not to get too hungup on things like that, its only words.” She does have a point, but there are some words you shouldn’t ever utter from your lips. For me, it’s the word fag or faggot. I cannot stand people using it, even if you’re from New York and you use it to refer to anyone being retarded. For some people, it’s the word retard or retarded. Then, there are racist terms, and I won’t utter those out of respect. So are they just words?
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Another fellow MadBitch said they would like to hear the “tone of my voice.” I remember as a child my mother telling me, “It isn’t what you say; it’s how you say it.” It’s a decent point to be made. After all, we use words to describe our everyday phenomena. As long as we say it in a nice tone, are we granted immunity from what we say?
Then, I go into my Mandala of Being frame of mind and I have to remind myself we are in control of how we react as long as we stay in the present. People can use words to hurt our feelings, but it is up to each of us whether we allow them to hurt us or not. So, are they just words? Is it simply the tone of my voice?
At the end of the day, I have to remember how I use the word. Am I trying to initiate conflict? No. Am I saying it out of negative emotions? No. Am I saying it to degrade someone? No (even when I’m upset and call someone an annoying bitch). As I said before, we’re all bitches. There are whiny bitches, annoying bitches, fun bitches, silly bitches, crazy bitches, and MadBitches…
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If you ever feel I am degrading you, or treating anyone negatively, please come to me because I want to apologize. I wouldn’t want anyone to feel bad for something I did. I know what it’s like to feel shitty over someone’s comment or use of words. Please let me make it up to you. At the same time, I probably won’t stop using the word bitch. The word and I have a bond, a strong bond. It will probably last forever… So… you might want to unsubscribe if you have a problem. I’m just saying.
